Patti,
Would you please make a hair appt.??? Not only will it make you feel better - it's normal and you need normal!!
Plus I'm sure Dean would love to see his beautiful pre-MDS wife - instead of - as you said - "someone who scares herself in the mirror"
. It would make you both feel better!
MDS is hard on both of you - and don't sell that short. You may be suffering as much or more than he is plus you have all the responsibility as well.
So go get that scraggly hair cut! Your guilt about wanting it cut is inappropriate guilt - you don't need any more on your shoulders than you already have - not even your hair
.
God Bless and keep us posted,
Sally