[Chirley]

I'm sorry that you lost your brother and that you feel abandoned and guilty. It's not supposed to end this way.

Just think of it the other way round. You had refused to donate and he died! You would still have been blamed and abandoned by his and your family, your brother would not have had a chance to live and you would still feel guilty. You need to know that you gave your brother a chance at life and you deserve to have that recognised. If his family and your family can't see it that way yet, it's because it's their way of grieving (not necessarily a healthy way of grieving though).

Sometimes stress in a family can unite and sometimes it divides but if your family had issues prior to the donation and his unfortunate passing, it's likely going to be worse afterwards unless you have family counselling.

Remember, you did the right thing even if it didn't have the right outcome.