How very tragic about your daughter and how Blessed her son is. You and your husband have had and are having more than anyone should have to deal with. Venting helps. I don't know if you are a person of faith but if so, the book Jesus Calling by Sarah Young has gotten my husband and I through many trials. It's a daily devotional. If you decide to get it get the large version with the passages at the end. Please feel free to send me an e-mail if there is any more information I can try to help you with - or vent.
shcalvert3@aol.com And I'm sure your journey will help others on the forum.
Take good care,
Sally